In that case, the problem should to be solved is : Why does sexual harassment keep happening? It is been illegal for decades and it is not only personal injury, but also psychological trauma，But few people are aware of its dangers. Then why is it still so pervasive?
In my perspective, the main problem is that parents don’t have a good sex education for children when they are at a young age. There are many old traditional rules in China, but nothing is about sex. For parents, children are everything, they would like to do their best to take care of their children’s strong growth. However, many parents ignore their children’s sex because they are too shy to speak or think their children are too young to have sex.
When children are young and have never had sex with education, no one has ever told them to protect their body’s private parts, once they are hurt, they don’t know how to tell their parents; they would even see the hurt as a sign of love.
Some authorities estimate that the ‘hidden rate’ of sexual harassment cases is about 7:1. It means that only one of the seven cases of sexual harassment will go into the judicial process and be known to the public. So for now, what we know about sexual harassment is just the tip of the iceberg. Where we don’t see it, sexual harassment can happen every day.
I once saw the news that a girl who was in middle school was called to the office for sexual harassment by her head teacher for making up for lessons. The teacher also threatened to drop the girl out if she didn’t obey. The girl told her parents about it later, the girl’s parents don’t think it is very decent, so they didn’t choose to come forward for girl justice; they even put all the anger in the girl and said they were shame on her. A month later, the girl committed suicide.
China is a traditional country, and in the values of the older generation of parents, there are no longer tolerant of anything can discredit the family. After some child sex abuse, parts of families will think this is the children’s fault and push all sin on children, even the opportunities to speak out the inner suffering will be stripped. In some cases, parents are the driving force behind sexual harassment.
Sexual Harassment isn’t only to children, as l stated before, it occurs on anybody and at anytime.
A 2006 study by The American Association of University Women indicates 62% of female college students report having been sexually harassed at their university, with 80% of the reported harassment being peer-to-peer. 51% of male college students admit to sexually harassing someone in college, with 22% admitting to harassing someone often or occasionally.
However， there are a few who will resist, and even if some will, the people around them will not be 100 percent supportive.On the contrary, the person who is sexually harassed will be misunderstood, satirized and abused when telling the truth.
The harassers may use bad excuses to explain his misdeeds.Other harassers even pass the buck on women.They believe women sometimes are too revealing and too sexy for the them to resist and it is not their fault.These people obviously don’t have good values, and women have the right to determine how they look and how they live.
This kind of thing is not just restricted to women. Sexual harassment is an act of inequality. In other words, it is the power of struggle. The harasser is deprived of your rights and do something harmful to you. We need to take back of our power.We can’t be slaughtered lambs.Anyway，some success stories always cheer us up.
It’s been a little over 3 years since former Fox & Friends host Gretchen Carlson filed her landmark sexual-harassment lawsuit against Fox News C.E.O. Roger Ailes. When Gretchen Carlson spoke out about her experience of workplace sexual harassment, it inspired women everywhere to take their power back and tell the world what happened to them.
In a remarkable, fierce talk, she tells her story. ‘We will no longer be underestimated, intimidated or set back,’ Carlson says. ‘We will stand up and speak up and have our voices heard. We will be the women we were meant to be.’
Her speech really inspired me. I identify three specific things we can all do to create safer places. First, we need to turn bystanders and enablers into allies, but still, overwhelmingly, bystanders and witnesses don’t come forward. In 2016, the Harvard Business Review called it the ‘bystander effect.’
I remember 9/11 and millions of times we’ve heard, ‘If you see something, say something.’ Imagining how impactful that would be if we carried that through to bystanders in the workplace regarding sexual harassment — to recognize and interrupt these incidences; to confront the perpetrators to their face; to help and protect the victims. This is my shout-out to everyone: we need you in this fight and to be allies.
The second one is to change the laws. How many of you know whether or not you have a forced arbitration clause in your employment contract? If you don’t know, you should be known. TIME Magazine calls it – ‘The teeny tiny little print in contracts that keeps sexual harassment claims unheard.’ Forced arbitration takes away your Seventh Amendment right to an open jury process. It’s secret. You don’t get the same witnesses or depositions.
In many cases, the company picks the arbitrator for you. There are no appeals, and only 20 percent of the time does the employee win; so nobody ever knows what happened to you. Before somebody harasses you, they don’t ask you if you’re a Republican or Democrat first. They just do it and this is why we should all care.
The last one is be fierce. It starts when we stand tall, and we build that self-confidence. We need to stand up and speak up,we must tell the world what happened.
Consequently，as a man ，we need to push ourselves and help women out. The world is ours,and to make life better, we must join together to fight such vices as sexual harassment.
