Bob Keeshan encourages parents to be “the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement, and action have an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than the parent.” Depending on how a child is parented, their mental health will vary; parents are one of the biggest causes of depression. The book Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare demonstrates how parenting affects a child greatly. Juliet’s parents are both vile as they neglect Juliet often.
Although both parents are atrocious, Lord Capulet is a better parent compared to Lady Capulet because he performs his parental duties such as marrying off his daughter and protecting the family, wants the best for his daughter, and shows Juliet endless love.
Capulet performs his parental duties and takes care of his daughter, acknowledging her age and choices, while Lady Capulet fails to support and nurture Juliet. Lord Capulet finds a suitable man for her daughter, yet also respecting his daughter’s choices.
Capulet is more understanding and tries to take Juliet’s emotion into consideration which never happens in the 1600s, as girls were commonly thought of as properties of their fathers, and had to listen to whatever their parents saidt. He claims “[his] child is yet a stranger in the world/She hath not seen the change of fourteen years.” (1.2.9-11), and “[his] will to her consent is but a part/ An she agreed within her scope of choice/ Lies [his] consent and fair according voice.
” (1.2.17-19.) Lady Capulet completely ignores her duties, as she forces the nurse to take care of her daughter. Furthermore, Juliet “hadst sucked wisdom from [the nurse’s] teat.” (1.3.69-70).
She asks Juliet to love Paris without even knowing what Juliet’s feelings for Paris are. It is revealed Juliet’s mother “was a mother much upon these years/That [Juliet] is now a maid” (1.3.75-77), and instead of imposing that type of marriage she forces it upon her daughter. Throughout Romeo and Juliet, Capulet performs his duties as a father including disciplining Juliet and marrying her off. Whilst, Lady Capulet ignores how Juliet feels, and pesters her about loving Paris, giving her pressure to adore someone she has no feelings for. Unlike her husband, Lady Capulet neglects her parental duties and forces the nurse to take of Juliet, distancing Juliet from her mother. While Lord Capulet is uneasy at the sight of her daughter being married so young, Lady Capulet did not have the same opinion of her lover.
Capulet is firm with his daughter, Juliet, because he wants the best for Juliet, whereas Lady Capulet marries off her daughter for Paris’ looks. Although Capulet is firm with Juliet, he genuinely wants the best for her. Lord Capulet knows that Juliet grew up, so marriage is the one thing on his mind. Capulet originally tried to reason with Paris, and told him that Juliet was too young; however, he wants Juliet to stop mourning, and replace it with love. Furthermore, he wants Juliet to have a better social status. Capulet believes “[Juliet] shall be married to this noble earl. ” (3.4.22) However, Lord Capulet gets angry when she denies marriage. He had good intentions just got too passionate. Lady Capulet marries off Juliet for the looks of Paris, always complimenting the looks of the young man.
She does not take Juliet’s feelings into consideration, she does not take the age of Juliet into consideration, instead of forcing her to love a man for his looks. She marries off Juliet so Lady Capulet could become richer and her status increased. She calls Paris the flower of Verona, a perfect man, and agreeing to the Nurse’s statement, “[Paris is] a man of wax.” (1.3.78] Lady Capulet ignores how Juliet is too young for marriage and that she has no feelings for the elder. Although Capulet seems harsh and rude, Capulet wants the best for Juliet while Lady Capulet just wants to marry off Juliet because Paris is handsome and rich. Capulet’s firmness helps her to put her into place. He thinks that what he does is for the best for Juliet; however, in reality, he is being too harsh. On the other hand, Lady Capulet does not take Juliet’s feelings into consideration and does what she wanted, ignoring her daughter’s opinion.
Lord Capulet shows Juliet endless love, claiming that she is the center of his world whilst Lady Capulet cares less about Juliet’s feelings. Lord Capulet loves Juliet endlessly, and one mainly sees it after her death. Throughout the novel, Lord Capulet is firm with Juliet for her wellbeing. Although his methods were harsh, it just showed the love he had for his daughter. He later mourns for his daughter, calling her the sweetest flower of the field, and personifying death. He believes that he has done so much, “Alone, in company, still [his] care hath been/ To have her matched.” (3.5.178-178) Lady Capulet communicates with Juliet through the nurse. It is evident that Juliet regards Lady Capulet as a superior, and someone to obey not as her mother. She calls her mother, “Madam” which signifies that Juliet and her mom have a very distant relationship. It is obvious that the closest bond Juliet has is with the nurse, and not the mother herself. Lady Capulet does not dare to challenge it. Furthermore, Lady Capulet likes Count Paris more than her actual daughter.
She explains how Paris is “[the] precious book of love, the unbound lover, to beautify him only lacks a cover” and asks Juliet to make him look good, and to be the cover. (1.3.91) Moreover, she tells her daughter to “weep no more” (3.5.88) and calls her foolish since “Some grief shows much of love/But much of grief shows still some want of wit.” (3.5.72-73) Lord Capulet expresses all his love for Juliet and tries his best to give her a better life. He wants the best Juliet and does everything to give her a better future. He takes her time emotions into consideration. Furthermore, he tells Paris that he wants to marry Juliet off because he wants to stop her crying and give her more happiness. Whereas, Lady Capulet gives Juliet limited love. This explains their strained relationship, both not giving each other endless love, and ignoring their presence.
Thus, Lord Capulet is a better parent than Lady Capulet because he takes action in Juliet’s life, and complete his duties, Capulet is strict with Juliet to allow her to have a better life in the future, and Lord Capulet shows Juliet endless love. The attitude a parent heavily influences their children. If the parents do not take care of their children well, their children will be affected by it.