What is a Loyal Friend
A Loyal friend accepts their friends for who they are, no matter what their friends do, and they don’t try to change them. Author Marc Chernoff says, “Trying to change a person never works. People know when they are not accepted in their entirety and its hurts”. Elbert Hubbard says, “A real friend is someone who truly knows you and loves you just the same’. A loyal friend is someone who will always help their friends move forward and support them in everything they do. They push and help their friend achieve their goals. A loyal friend stands as a number fan and cheerleader who cheer their friends up when things are tough. They will never leave their friends behind when they are in trouble, and they stand beside their friends all the time. I know a humble girl who helps her friend move forward and stand by her. This girl is my friend of ten years, her name is Olamide. Olamide is a 19-year-old girl who has always been there for me and has never once judged me or tried to change me. We did everything together. We had sleepovers at one another’s homes pretty much consistently, remaining up late during the evening chuckling about young men, discussing style, and finding what number of things we shared for all intents and purpose. ‘We’re similar to two peas in a pod.’ Olamide would state. ‘We’re similar to sisters from another Mother.’ She encourages and enlightens me all the time. She has always been my number one fan and cheerleader who cheers me up whenever I am down. I know she’s a loyal friend because I always feel safe telling her about things going on in my life.
Pastor Justin Jahanshir says, ‘an amazing friend aligns their schedule with the priority of friendship. Developing meaningful, lasting friendships is not a by-product, but it’s built through intentional, purposed time and energy. Thus, the starting point for any ongoing friendship will simply be invested into a relationship.’ Having a loyal friend in our life is a gifted experience because we will be surrounded by love and support.
Disloyal Friends and Betrayal
Unlike a loyal friend, disloyal friend doesn’t show the true color of who they are at first, but when it rubs off, they will start to reveal who they are. They will talk behind their friends back and pressure their friends to do what the friend doesn’t do on a regular basis. A loyal friend will want the best for their friend and respect their decision, but a disloyal friend will force her friends to do what they don’t want to do and get them in trouble.
A Disloyal friend will also take advantage of her friend. Have you ever had a friend who only hangs out with you for a long time and later betray you because of a girl or boy? I recall the first occasion when I met Vivian; it was my first day of seventh grade (Called Junior secondary school in Nigeria) and I was a new student at Girls community school. She was the first person I met, and the main new friend I made. We did everything together. furthermore, shockingly, we both had a similar taste in young men.
His name was Victor, and he was the cutest kid in seventh grade. Each young girl in seventh grade at Girls community school went frail in the knees when Victor walked by. Vivian and I were no special case. Our first quarrel was over Victor; I had lunch with Vivian and my mother, talking about my upcoming birthday gathering and whom I would welcome. Clearly, I would welcome Victor to the gathering, yet Vivian and I really got into a quarrel over who would hit the dance floor with Victor first. ‘I will request that Victor be my date to the gathering,’ I told Vivian. ‘You can’t request that he be your date, I would request that he be my date.’ Vivian answered. To end the battle, I recollect my mother disclosing to us that we should leave that choice to Victor. We miserably agreed. The night of my gathering arrived, the minute arrived, the fist dance move, and YES, he requested that I dance with him! It was my birthday and I felt like a princess hitting the dance floor with my prince.
Obviously, Vivian was not happy. The following day, Victor asked me, in a message, on the off chance that I should be his better half. ‘I like you, will you be my sweetheart?’ It said. I was officially Victor’s girlfriend. I realized that Vivian would be vexed. I thought whether she was genuinely my friend, she would be upbeat for me. I’m off-base! My closest companion in the entire world was frantic at me and proclaimed an individual war against me from that day on. A group of us went to the shopping center. My closest friend in the entire world approached my beau and disclosed to him a lie. She disclosed to him that I was anticipating parting ways with him, and that he expected to hustle just a bit and say a final farewell to me before I got the chance to do it first. Obviously, I didn’t know this. Similarly, as Vivian had arranged, Victor broke up with me that night. ‘Um, Olu,’ Victor stated, ‘I figure we should separate.’ I was broken. Like the great friend that I think Vivian was, she really loaned me her source of genuine sympathy that night. Obviously throughout the following couple of days, reality turned out. When I asked Victor for what reason he had parted ways with me, his answer was, ‘I thought you wanted to break up me.’ ‘For what reason would you imagine that?’ I asked. Unfortunately, he reacted, ‘ that Vivian revealed to him when we were at the shopping center. I was crushed. I felt like had I recently lost my Boyfriend, as well as simply lost my closest friend, my ‘BFF’, the one individual I believed I could confide in more than any other person. Our friendship ends due to BETRAYAL. I got to know that Vivian was a disloyal friend.
In conclusion, even though Vivian was a longtime friend than Olamide, she was the one who betrayed me. My both friends make me understand what a Loyal and Disloyal friend are. I frequently ask myself what I have gained from this experience. I trust that as a result of how Vivian treated me, I have improved as a friend to Olamide. I have discovered that if my friend and I prefer the same guy, I ought to presumably avoid that guy. What’s more, I have discovered that everyone is fit for disloyalty, and friends ought not really be picked on what you share practically speaking, however on how they treat you.
Trust is important in a friendship, even though I trust her with my life, she betrayed me. A disloyal friend will spill her friends’ secrets just to make herself-look better by putting her friend down. Zero Dean says, ‘An honest enemy is better than a false friend’. It’s better to have an enemy that will slap you in the face than a friend that will end up stabbing you in the back.