“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.” I believe friendship is a powerful word. It doesn’t just mean being friends with someone; it has more meaning to that. We all choose who we want as friends, we all want certain qualities much like ours, but also qualities that we might want that could complete us and this we look in other people.
Everyone is different, we all look for different things, but when you find someone that you love spending time with and that person loves spending time with you than that is friendship. Friends ware off on you, they become a part of you, we may develop certain characteristics from them and they develop something from you. Friends, people you can be absolutely crazy with and then can just sit there in silence with out it being “awkward”.
Friends are the ones who still keep you sane while being insane.
Qualities that I look for in a friend are, someone who can be completely honest and true with me, no matter how much the truth may hurt, but lies hurt more. Someone who can be there, not just be there for the good times, like life is a party and then walk away on the bad times. I want someone who thinks like me and is comfortable so they should not hold back their crazy side.
Someone who understands my most insane idea and agrees with it. A friend who can help me reach my goals, not pull me to the bottom. Someone who can walk into your house and make him or herself at home, eat all the food in your fridge. Someone who can surprise me, go on crazy adventures and share each other’s dreams. Someone who will not let you fall. A true friend is the one that is still there when the rest of the world walks out. But most importantly I want trust in the friendship. No matter what happens they will be there at the end of the day to say they messed up with me and let’s go out and get ice cream.
The fear really hits you. That’s what you feel first. And then it’s the anger and frustration. Part of the problem is how little we understand about the ultimate betrayal of the body when it rebels against itself. Betrayal is a part of life, we all experience it at one point. So many emotions run through us like electricity after we have been electrocuted. First its pain to the heart, you trusted this person, you told them things you could not imagine to discuss with anyone. Memories replay in your mind and then it hits you. Anger and frustration, how could they? You want revenge, you want to show them how much better you are.
Then you blame yourself, what did I do? It is my entire fault what should I do? Now betrayal is never easy and we all have different ways to deal with it, but at the end of the day we are all human we all feel these emotions, you never know what might have caused your friend to betray you, but since you were betrayed you learned something new. So you might betray someone else. It’s just a human thing, something we all may never understand but we just do it. We all make mistakes, and in the right circumstances, only you make your own desiscions. You’re responsible for you.
After all the emotions of betrayal you go through your own support system kicks in, you control these emotions and your mind helps you. You slowly begin building yourself up again. You trust people less and your more careful around people. Your barriers and walls are up again. You’re careful, before you call someone your friend. Sometimes you look for different qualities in people, you avoid being friends with people that remind you of the person that betrayed you. You have other friends, you move on from being betrayed, you find a replacement, your careful not to make the same mistakes. Sometimes you cannot trust everybody, but even through it all at the end of the day all you have is who you are.
Every friendship has there ups and downs, you get into fights, you disagree, you don’t talk to each there for some time but then somehow you start talking to them, you forgive each other and move on. The good times you have with them will always be there with you in memory, we learn from our past experience and each new person that comes into our life teaches us something, no friendship is ever perfect but it takes an effort from bothsides, to make it a good one.