Essay, Pages 3 (597 words)
How to be a good parent is the question every soon to be and the existing parent has. Being a parent is quite difficult especially in this area where society judges you on everything you do. A good parent consists of not trying to be a perfect parent, but the best you can be for your child. Parenting consists of love, respect, support, encouragement, discipline, sacrifice, and rewards. Many times, as a parent we tend to give more material items than affection and love.
Child discipline is probably the least enjoyable part of parenting. It can be frustrating, discouraging, challenging, and exhausting. It is one of the most recurrent and toughest challenges of parenthood. As a parent have you ever wondered, “How can you discipline the children without using punishment?” Using punishment is not the only way nor a good way to successfully discipline a child. Punishment places fear on children and can lead to mental disorders, emotional disequilibrium, externalizing behavior, self-fulfillment.
The worst part of all is that they can become future bullies or victims of bullying which is a fear every parent has. Being a victim of a bully/bullies could impact a child’s academic performance. However, a good discipline system is more effective in children than punishment.
Having a discipline system should consist of a good role model in behavior by the parent(s) in where the child is being taught how to share, listen closely, to be kind, and respectful. Teach your child the moral of what is right and what is wrong.
Setting limits and being consistent is the key to good discipline. Be respectful, kind, understanding, and firm when enforcing old or new rules. Do not fail on enforcing the old and new rule. Focus on understanding what is the cause of the child’s behavior never assume a behavior.
Avoid comparison and labels. Comparing your children with other children is not a good thing that would impact the child’s self-esteem and confidence, labeling the child will only build anger. You want to be the kind of parent who takes the time to inculcate in the child’s good manners, habits, and behavior. Remember there is no such thing as a perfect child, so allow them to make mistakes and to be themselves. Always show your child affection and respect, physical contact such as a kiss or a hug can go a long way in building a profound connection with your child. Always make your child your number one priority. Never vent your anger, sadness, or frustration on your child.
Be a responsible parent that will lead children to self-reliant adulthood. The definition of a good parent might be different from person to person. For many the definition of a parent is one who creates, gives birth to, or nurtures and raises a child; a father or a mother. To me, parents are those who raise you. Giving birth to a child doesn’t make you a parent. Being a parent is a major sacrifice, the amount of care you place on the child is crucial because if you care “too much “the child may not form opinions of their own and not grow up to be their own individual person. If the child receives too little care, then they may not have the basics to develop their own person correctly and in some cases have led to an adult life of misfortune. Finally, time is very important when it comes to having children, especially in their early years, a child requires a lot of attention and time, so think wisely when planning to have children.