In order to curb this horrific polemic called bullying. Let us now take a closer look at this hideous crime called bullying. What exactly is bully? According to the Department of Education and Early Childhood Development bullying is repeated verbal, physical, social or psychological aggressive behavior by a person or group directed towards a less powerful person or group that Is Intended to cause harm, distress or fear. Bullying takes places In a lot of different forms in the school system.
It ranges from as early as Kindergarten and then goes on to Primary school and then
Secondary school if not corrected as soon as possible. What contributes to bullying? Bullying stems from households where children are either neglected or have their own way all the time.
The ones that come from neglected homes or broken families, bullying becomes a way of life for them. They do it in order to survive, some people may call it survival mode. Being a bully does not mean that you poor or less fortunate however because the other kind of bullies are formed by children having their own way all the time.
When they are home their parents give them anything they want ND let them have their own way but when they come out into the real world and they realize that they can not always have what they want they turn to bullying to get It. Sometimes parents believe that by affording their children with more than they need and want is a something good but not always.
How does the mind of a bully operate? According to Kids Health, some bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important.
When they pick on someone else, it can aka them feel big and powerful. Some bullies come from families where everyone Is angry and shouting all the time. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act. Some bullies are copying what they’ve seen someone else do. Some have been bullied themselves. Sometimes bullies know that what they are doing or saying hurts other people. But other bullies may not really know how hurtful their actions can be. Most bullies don’t understand or care about the feelings of others. Bullies often pick on someone they think they can have power over.
They might pick on kids who get upset easily or who have trouble sticking up for themselves. Getting a big reaction out of someone can make bullies feel like they have the power they want. Sometimes bullies pick on someone who Is smarter than they are or different from them in some way. Sometimes bullies Just pick on a kid for no reason at all. At the end of the day it does not matter what type of bully you I OFF other children physically, mentally and psychologically. The problem could be easily rectified if a bully has a conscience or knows how it feels to be bullied but most allies do not have that sense of empathy in them.
What impact does a bully really have on its victim? A single student who bullies can have a wide-ranging impact on the students they bully, students who observe bullying, and the overall climate of the school and community. The Losses Bullying Prevention Program describes students involved or witnessing a bullying situation as having roles in the Bullying Circle (as seen in the appendix). When students are victims of bullying there are lots of effects that have long lasting impacts on their future, some are depression, low self esteem, lath problems, suicidal thoughts and a lot of built up anger and frustration in them.
This is where I tie in the anger management in my paper. It is because of bullying that most students are angry. They feel like they are cut out of society and that their teachers and staff do not care about them. Their anger frustrates them so much that they eventually stand up for themselves but with anger and bad thoughts on their mind. When we intervene in the bullying situation by hosting anger management forums and workshops in the school are we then saying that it is okay to bully but it is not okay to get angry when we are bullied?
Anger is only one of the many effects that bullying has on our nation’s children so it would seem to me that anger management and bullying are only cause and effect and that anger management is not the key to bullying but a start into this anti bullying phenomenon. Let us now take a more in depth look into what is anger management. According to Medical News, “Anger is a natural emotion that we all experience. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration we may become angry – and usually this is a healthy response.
Anger ay be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our Judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. ” When we as teachers employ this alone into our daily teaching routine we would assisted students with one way to handle bullying but we did not touch the fact that bullying is taking place therefore we cannot say that anger management is the key to resolving bullying in the school system. Bullying can occur randomly or regularly. It can happen daily, weekly, or monthly.
In fact, one in 10 bullying victims are bullied daily, while one in five victims are bullied once or twice a month (Mahoney, 2012). The bullied student can rarely predict when the bullying will occur, and if the student can predict the bullying, often teachers and staff may not address the incident. In fact, staff may not even catch the first few acts of bullying. Schools need to find ways to reduce this problem. This includes having all teachers, staff, and administrators on board to prevent bullying from occurring. The following are some simple solutions that can be put in place to stop bullying.
Teachers need to have a clear definition of bullying. Teachers should be able to distinguish between teasing and bullying. According to Sweetening and West (2001), teasing is reported more frequently than bullying because teasing is done to irritate or provoke another with persistent distractions or other annoyances. Bullying, on the other hand, is an imbalance of power. Bullied students are unable to defend themselves, which is what causes the calling, excluding, preventing others from going where they want or doing what they want, pushing, hitting, and all forms of physical violence (Mahoney, 2012).
The severity of bullying varies from case to case. We need to remove labels and focus on behaviors instead. Sometimes we as tend to call students bullies and this can affect them in their future. Children can change and we should not be Judgmental towards them. Instead we need to punish bad behaviors and reward good ones. We often see the bad in these children because it happens so often but there must be a time when he/she did something good. When we reward them we encourage them to be good and every child likes to be rewarded so they would look forward to it.