Loving Family Without Serious Quarrels

I feel very blessed for having been raised. But this resulted also to some difficulties nowadays, in my adult life. I am not satisfied with anything less than what I had lived in my parent’s family. Their kind of relationship and communication is extremely rare, and it is very difficult to be established. My relationships with my husband I think most of the time is successful, but there is times that we fail, and get into an arguments. Such as an incident in the summer of 2018.

In 13 years of our marriage I learned how to live together, but unfortunately I don't know how to share our house with others or how to balance, split our love between our own little family and other relatives.

I have very high standards from my childhood family experience, so my expectations to people in my house and my own family are very high as well . I understand that it is impossible and I do not intend to “clone” my parents’ relationship as we live a different life nowadays.

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After our argument, my arrest and starting therapy with domestic violence classes me and my husband had many discussions together. Both of us working really hard on learning a better way of communicating in order to prevent any other miscommunication in the feature. I understand that communication is not a one-way street, it’s not one person transferring information and the other person receiving that information. Communication runs in both directions. I understand that my husband also has feelings and needs.

Thus, effective nonviolent communication is extremely important. It involves learning to listen compassionately to the feelings, needs and requests of the other person, then, after sharing your own. In order to have healthy, loving family we need to learn how to compromise for each other. It is entirely in our own hands how we react and what we are going to become. No one should have to see someone they love getting abused by someone they also loved and trusted. I will close out this personal story with the most important thing in my life, my family. I am married to my best friend, Eugene, we have wonderful 11 year old boy and another one is on his way. I understand that domestic violence is an extremely toxic, destructive behavior that causes serious harm to people around me as well as myself. Domestic violence is unacceptable violation of basic human rights.