In the unification of two minds, orientation of sexuality is irrelevant. (Naskar), and as we progress as a modernized society, we continually find ourselves breaking down the walls of the traditional belief that has been embedded in our society for decades, if not centuries. Today, it’s actually more often than not frowned upon to put either gender in a box over martial or work roles. People become very out of touch when the issue doesn’t affect their lives directly, if at all, as (Bornstein) states “it’s easy to fictionalize an issue when you’re not aware of the many ways in which you are privileged by it.
”. When some members of society are able to move about entirely unbothered by certain social tethers, it’s very easy to forget to be compassionate to other members who choose to go outside the norm, or possibly had no choice but to step outside them.
Too many individuals talk so much shit about working moms and stay at home dads, people’s sexuality and identity, etc, so openly and without any regard to how it does, or more often doesn’t relate to their personal lives in any way.
It’s people’s own personal family life, and a separate different way of life that is seemingly no harm to society directly is a right any family can pursue, but it is a topic that’s highly disputed and debated today. Why is it so bad to be a successful working mom, while dad stays home with the kids? Why does it matter what gender does what? Why can’t they let their children dress how they want, or play with what they want? If everyone is happy and contributing, why can’t people normally look the other way? There’s also already an ingrained opinion that even a “single” parent isn’t ideal, or having “gay parents” will make a child grow up confused.
“Accepted social gender roles and expectations are so entrenched in our culture that most people cannot imagine it any other way. As a result, individuals fitting neatly into this expectation rarely if ever question what gender really means. They have never had to because the system has worked for them.” (Petrikowski), and it’s this idea that we see the major flaw in our society as a whole. We often forget that it doesn’t matter who is being brought up by whom, or who is raising what child what way, but more HOW one does their best as a parent or spouse that reflects the absolute best of society. You’re not wrong for wanting to be a stay at home dad, you’re not evil for letting your daughter dress in boy clothes, and even though we are working hard to bring in these new norms, there are still many obstacles ahead.
To sum up, most of the time the people of society just like to make simple things difficult. And most forget “what matters most is not ’what’ you are, but ’who’ you are.” (Stokes). Gender should not matter that much anymore, because it won’t be much longer until the traditional genderization of people, work, and family life will not only be abnormal, it will be practically discriminating against people just trying to live their happiest of lives. Within reason, everyone should be allowed to do what they want and not be sexualized!
When one spends their time concentrating on a singular sexuality people should be, or what gender roles one person or the other should follow, many fail to see the bigger picture, “gender is like a Rubik’s Cube with one hundred squares per side, and every time you twist it to take a look at another angle, you make it that much harder a puzzle to solve.” (Killermann). Just because we all have been raised with different views, and have been able to formulate our own opinions about the aspects of life so far, doesn’t mean that we may all need to make a drastic change in our viewpoints, and hopefully the change can come sooner, rather than later.
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