Given the traditional family, the husband and wife’s income are conjoined.
Whenever you seperate the two that leaves the primary guardian with custody of the child with significantly decreased income. This can lead to hardship ultimately leading to trust issues within the child. That child would be insecure about the things he or her might want to participate in because of the fear that it cannot be covered financially.
This can also lead to illegal or inappropriate ways of trying to gain or accumulate funds through that individual. One thing to add that hold a lot of weight that most people don’t realize is that according the the US Census Bureau Today, “nearly 25 million children have an absentee father”. Also according to the professional literature, “the absence of a father is the single most important cause of poverty”. In addition the same is true for crime.
Of all adolescents, those in intact married families are the least likely to commit delinquent acts. Children of single-parent homes are more likely to be abused, have emotional problems, engage in questionable behavior, struggle academically, and become delinquent. Problems with children from fatherless families can continue into adulthood. These children are three times likely to end up in jail by the time they reach age 30 than are children raised in intact families, and have the highest rates of incarceration in the United States.
From an emotional standpoint it’s it effects more than what generally people think. Some things that I’ve observed in my friends who have grown up with an absentee father rather than my friends who have had one is that my friends without a father display a reluctance to open up as easy.
I feel as though due to the fact that their fathers abandoned them that they have left them with a hole of yearning for a certain love that mothers cannot give to them. Another thing that I’ve noticed is that my friends that have grown up without a father tend to be a little bit more hostile is their character. I don’t mean hostile in a sense of physical aggression all the time but more so rather inclined to act quicker on something out of feeling rather than logic.
I am a firm believer that women cannot teach boys how to become men simply because that is not a role they were tasked with originally and even still today. It is a man’s role to show a young boy how to become a man and when that man leaves that child he not only has abandoned his son but he permanently damaged him and has left the unnatural role of male leadership to a woman.
Overtime this decision results in conflict in the upbringing in this young boy because now since he has no role model showing a positive example of how to treat a woman that boy has to figure that out for himself.
Unfortunately, given the fact that, that child’s only memory of how to treat a woman was shown in his father abandonment of his mother at his own convenience, that example passes down to that young boy leading him to objectify woman, such as his father did since his only mission was to have her temporarily and then drop her when he felt wanted something else.
Specifically in the minority community this has been an epidemic which has affected us for far way too long without any form of recovery or motivation for change and it’s mind boggling. Going forward we really need to reevaluate our choices on raising children and the effects that abandonment do to the kids.
Something that people don’t also consider in addition to fathers abandoning there children is the effect it leaves on young ladies. One of the reasons why girls that have gone wild have chosen that behavior is because of the examples shown at home. While growing up a mother should be able to teach that girl how to become well mannered and lady like while the father should serve as the sole protector and overseer of his girls. In the event that the father is absent, that leaves the girl with a sense of wondering of how a woman is suppose to be treated and automatically installs the wrong ideas of what are solid manlike characteristics to look for.
This can lead to women willing to ride or die for delinquent males, following along in their footsteps because of infatuation in someone who they don’t really know. In extreme and common cases this can lead to them given their bodies away with consent consistently for pleasure become of that gaping hole that could have been fulfilled with a nuclear family and a present father. Most of the time when girls don’t have Dad’s in their lives they go looking for one. This decision is so detrimental to that girls life and will not set her up for success whatsoever. Some unsolved questions that have been posed before still leave me wondering.
For example why are african americans 13 percent of the population but make up for more than half of the crime in america? Why is it stereotypical for black kids to grow up and do nothing with their lives because of lack of direction of focus. Family stability is a major component in the success and civility of black people as a whole.
Biblically, our families no matter what race weren’t meant to have unstable families. This is because allowing that to happen one, makes living so much more harder, two, it creates trends that are not impossible, rather highly difficult to overcome because of peoples levels of comfortability and gullibility to follow along with what everyone is doing today.
Conclusion
Historically, marriage in the United States constituted a unified set of ideas about appropriate adult behavior. Marriage conferred adult status and set the boundaries for sexual activity, childbearing, and living arrangements with a sexual partner. Marriage defined the kinds of work performed by husbands and wives and was viewed as a lifelong endeavor. In recent decades, however, marriage has been largely deinstitutionalized; its meaning is no longer broadly shared, and the package of behaviors that were associated with marriage in the past have become much less closely linked. Behaviors such as premarital sex, cohabitation, childbearing outside of marriage, extended singlehood, and divorce have become much more common in recent years, and they have also become more widely accepted.
This quote by Mick Cunningham and Arland Thornton I thinks does justice to my feelings towards this topic and really sums up really the substantial issue of family instability.
