A divorce may be the result of one believing that the marriage wasn’t valid from the begging or reoccurring issues. Often couples will issue a nullity, which is where the church reviews the couple’s case and then determines whether it was a valid marriage or not. But what does this mean for their children? Children without married parents are more likely to suffer from emotional problems, failure in an academic life and can also experience abuse by parents.
It’s not very often that you come across children with divorced parents.
Sometimes they don’t seem normal, almost separate themselves from others. Anxiety is an example of an emotional problem. Children who developed this often lose sleep, have shortness of breath, pounding heart, sudden burst of fear and worry. Depression is prolonged sadness, the feeling of wanting to end your life, self-harm and sometimes it can cause underage drinking. Children who suffer from depression often feel like they aren’t noticed by either of the parents.
Sometimes even the children will blame themselves for the split of their parents. If divorce happens before five years of age, they are more likely to develop these problems. If divorce happens between the ages twelve to fifteen, either they want to avoid growing up or they long for their adult life so much that they speed up the process. They will also seek intimacy elsewhere It’s also possible that their behavior will change, and they might participate in early sexual activity.
Divorce can also cause mood disorders, PTSD, and Bipolar disorder.
The academic life is very important. Studies show that children of divorce can have a lower grade point average and could get held back a grade. In kindergarten children with non-married parents have a lower reading score than those with married parents. Typically, children from divorced homes are more likely to perform worse in spelling, reading and math. Those who are in a married family are more likely to have better engagement in school compared to those without both parents.
Children are less likely to complete high school, have a small amount of education years, more likely to skip class, sixty-three percent of children will receive a high school degree and have lower college expectations. Those in single families have less conversations about school, biological fathers are more engaged in homework than the stepdad. Behavior at school could change too, they could have drug-related problems, disobey teachers, and be aggressive with other children. In an intact family, children care more about doing well in school, rather than doing just enough to get by.
Abuse can come in many forms, emotional, physical, sexual, and mental. When getting a divorce, the best way to prevent abuse in a custody arrangement is understanding the signs. Do they distance themselves from other people? Do they act a different way towards the other parent? Do they find joy in being with the other parents during visitation? When getting a divorce either of the parents are at risk to abusing their child if they themselves have experienced abuse in their life. If a child is abused or neglected, they are more likely to be a part of criminal activity, drugs, abuse their own children and could become a teen parent. Those who are sexually abused, thirty-four percent of the time it is by a family member.