A good parent is someone who is responsible and provides for his or her children. They may possess qualities, such as, devotion and compassion. Good parents are supportive, but stern, when needed. All children are entitled to the basic necessities in life. Parents should provide food, shelter, clothing, and a stable environment conducive to flourish.
When it comes to providing for your children, it is demanding and should be done without hesitation. Everyone has different circumstances and values, but regardless of the circumstances, we have to set the foundation for our children. Providing for children does not necessarily mean they have to grow up in a lavish home with name-brand clothes eating caviar. However, clothing and feeding them and providing a home are a basic requirement. A good parent is devoted to their children. Being a single mother, I sacrificed my time to be there for my children. Whether it was, a basketball game or honor’s ceremony, I was there. For me, it is worth seeing the smiles on their faces from the bleachers. Because they needed to know that I was dedicated to them and the events they were participating in, and loved them unconditionally.
With being a good parent, children have to feel as though their parents are supportive of them. It is important to stay open-minded so that they are comfortable communicating. Meanwhile, parents should be stern and set limitations. Children are going to make decisions that affect their lives, and at times it may affect others. As parents, we must teach them that there are consequences for their actions; whether it is a positive or negative impact depends upon the action taken. “Think before you act,” is the concept that I have always preached to my children. We can only instill the values and pray that they use what we have taught them. This by far, is the hardest concept for me to grasp.
A good parent is also nurturing, loving, and sensitive. They are able to give the child the love and attention that they require. Whether it is an occasional hug or kiss on the forehead; the child knows that they are loved. As parents, you have to remember that there is not a guide or book set in stone what the proper way to raise your children.
My mother was young and was not necessarily ready to commit to raising two children. Although we had our grandmother, we felt somewhat neglected and unloved. With those feelings, I vowed to be a strong presence in my children’s lives regardless of the circumstances. It has not been an easy job. My children have seen some of the obstacles that I have encountered raising them. With faith and perseverance we weathered the storm. Encountering trials have made them stronger, and more appreciative in life. It has been quite rewarding to see them thrive.
Parenting comes with challenges, but being a good parent is providing the best possible environment for your children with the resources that you have available. It also consists of dedication, determination, love, and affection. So I ask, are you a good parent?