As Morrie Schwartz faces his terminal disease, ALS, he inspires Mitch Albom with his many aphorisms and life lessons. In tuesdays with Morrie, Morrie is the teacher, Mitch is the student, Morrie’s home is the classroom, and the lesson is life. As the modern transcendentalist, Morrie teaches Mitch about life, every Tuesday. They discuss a plethora of topics, including death, marriage, and forgiveness.
The day you realize we are going to die, is the day you change the way you look at things. We are all really “half asleep,” walking around, doing the things we feel we must do, like paying bills, but need to simplify, and learn to really live, learn to love. Morrie says “Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live,” and his words prove true. We all go about our day, not even thinking what can happen at a moments notice. We do not always realize that we may not be here tomorrow. Morrie says that once we have that moment of realization, we live differently.
We live as we are going to die tomorrow. Luckily for me, I have had that moment very early in life. My family unfortunately had to deal with a tragedy, the murder of my uncle Junny Rios-Martienez. He was two weeks from the age of 12. They taught me very early that I should live my life like he did, and really live it. My grandmother told me “Life is a gift, don’t let it go to waste by worrying about all the small things, or else you will miss out ”
We all need somebody to be there, not just a friend, but a companion and lover. Morrie talks about himself and his own wife, and discusses with Mitch the important things in a marriage. Morrie explains to him that you should have a common set of values in life. He says the most important one is “Your belief in the importance of your marriage,” which is very true in this society. In many families today, including my own, there are divorced parents. People get so caught up in life, they do not put the marriage on the top of the priority list. Therefore it falls, because, as Morrie says, you must believe that your marriage is important in order for it to be successful.
Forgiveness is not just something to give to others, but also to give to ourselves. Morrie emphasizes this point by one of his many aphorisms, “Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.” He says that we should forgive ourselves for what we didn’t do and what we should have done. We should also forgive others, and not hold grudges and things of that nature. Forgiveness is a big part of life, that we should all focus on, because it does affect our lives in a major way. My forgiveness reflects many things I do in life. I have a hard time forgiving myself if I know that I did not do my very best, but I did eventually learn that I can not go back, and must always move forward with life, as everybody must do. In society today, we all have trouble with forgiveness, in ourselves, and in others.
So in the end, Morrie teaches us that we must do all that we can to make sure our life is the way we wanted it to be, that we are the person we want to be, and that we can never truly know how to live unless we know how to die. Marriage, Morrie implies, is a very good thing, for any person, and what it takes for marriage to be successful is not very much. And forgiveness is a very important part in our lives, it helps define what we do with our lives. We can all learn from Morrie and his aphorisms he said to Mitch during those Tuesdays.