Family values are steadily being lost in the global society with the passage of time and one cannot help but accept the fact that the concern that is being raised amongst sociologists is well justified in this light. Divorce rates are beginning to soar when unreported divorces are realized and the attitude towards marriage and family has come to the point where it is nothing more than a paradox that has put to threat the very fabric of social values that were once considered to be the fundamental part of heritage (BBC, 2009).
Ironically, it is in the US that sociologists believe that marriage and family are idolized. The desire for the establishment and continuation of a strong healthy relationship is a desire that no American heart lives without and it has been quoted by sociologists that not only does the everyday American hold the desire to be part of a family, but in a majority of the cases, people also desire to have children in order to complete the family structure.
The birth rate in the US has decrease and it has been observed that more and more Americans are choosing to have children without the implementation of a marriage.
This concept has turned into something of an ideology shared amongst the American people since there is very little disagreement upon it while the number of people agreeing upon it and implementing this nontraditional arrangement continues to rise (Sidel, 2006, pp. 1-3). Marriage is now no longer central to the building of a family.
However, there is the aspect that is presented by sociologists which pertains to the viewpoint that this nontraditional arrangement has not taken shape recently but has been steadily taking root for quite some time now. Sociologists are of the opinion that simply because the presence of this particular form of arrangement was not realized in earlier days does not mean it was not present and prevalent (BBC, 2009). It would not be unjustified to conclude that the practical definition that was used for the understanding of the word family has changed significantly with the passage of time.
However, by observing current trends that are rooted deep into the society, one cannot help but feel that this desire is not all that the people desire any more. This trend has turned into something of a phenomenon since the underlying relationship between this trend and the growth of the reported divorce rate to fifty percent (50%) (BBC, 2009).
The evolution of the concept of the bread-winner concept
Needless to highlight, the distribution of authority in the infrastructure of a family has also evolved with the course of time and the man no longer remains the head of the house the same way he used to in the earlier part of the last century.
Women are becoming more independent now than they ever were before and the concept of the stay at home wife has become one that is not considered to be obligatory like it was in the past but one that is considered as an option amongst couples because of the immense opportunities and channels that a women can open for the family if she chooses to step into the professional field (Langer, 2000). There are no more individual bread winners in the modern day family structure.
The position of women as mothers in the modern family
Women are now no longer considered to be in a position where it is obligatory for them to become mothers and give birth to children. Family planning has served to bring a significant amount of change in the way that families are now built and brought up (Paxson, 2004, p. 102). Economic and social demands have served to greatly change the way that families choose to evolve with the passage of time. The elements that come across when the process of the raising of the child is considered with regard to the woman of the house have changed drastically along with the sense of responsibility amongst couples.
We can conclude therefore that changing times have changed the way the woman of the family held her position and role in the house (Hoffman & Youngblade, 1999). The mother of today is serving more roles than she was ever serving before. For the working mother, the responsibility of rearing the child (Case Western Reserve University, 2009) and making sure that all the decisions made in the process are now combined with the responsibility of contributing to the strengthening and protection financial infrastructure of the household (Hall-Bills, 2008).
The modern day working mother is now in a position where the father has begun to accept the presence of the woman of the house to be one that is the bearer of perhaps more responsibility than the father himself.
Needless to say, the mother, being a working woman, also has to make sure that her career is one that she does not raise issues at home and does not put her in a position where she is driven incapable of fulfilling her responsibilities as a mother (Hall-Bills, 2008). In other words, while the freedom of thought and action that a woman has seems to have increased, equivalent has been the increase in the responsibilities that fall on the woman’s shoulders (Tingey, Kiger, & Riley, 2002).
This has led the modern day mother to become even more of a multitasking observer than she was ever before. The modern day mother excels at the art of taking care of herself as well as for her family members for the same reason. It is for the same reason that the modern day working mother of the US has evolved to a point where she is now far more superior in terms of occupational skills as compared to her male counterpart (Eberharter, 2006).
A profile of the modern day mother can be found in one that is developed by lifestyle magazines whose target consumers are modern day working mothers of the like. For instance, if one was to go through Self Magazine, one finds articles that pertain to an efficient and economical execution of day to day house chores along with tips and techniques for the working mother to not only stay fit and content herself but also keep her family healthy and happy while doing so.
Elements such as community and workplace based child care, customized career counseling and other measures have also helped provide significant encouragement to working mother in their pursuit of the development of their career for their family’s happiness (Probert, 1999).
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