What are the best and worst things about living away from home? Living far away from home, even for a short period, can be fascinating, exciting and unforgettable, but at the same time it has vary effects on our life especially international students. One of the positive effects is teaching us the precious lesson of grow up as a person. Whenever you step out of your home and approach to a new country, that means you have to say good bye the comfortable life and get into a life full of duties. You have to learn how to do things by yourselves, start worrying about every phase of our life, from vast parts to smaller tasks such as balancing my checkbook for not to be in the red.
I have never done this in my country before. While I stay with my family, I don’t even think about my balance because I am youngest in my family, so everyone tries to take care of me very well. They think, I’m still young for response payments by myself. I’m kind of not being aware to spend money. I mean, I just buy whatever I think it is so important things to me without considering the price carefully. But it doesn’t work at here. Everything costs an arm and a leg. The price is totally different from my country. In fact, it charge me double price.
Moreover, your independence behavior will grow inside of you. You have to organize your life and be responsible to your housework; cleaning the room, doing your washing up, or cooking your own meal. Being self-discipline and responsible will help you go through independence life and achieve it. For instance, at here (USA.), I can do whatever I want. No one will complain me as I stay at home. This is good for your privacy. You are able to wake up whenever you want to and come home at late night. No one will report you to your parents. Besides, you can decide every situations base on your thinking without arguing with your parents. However, the freedom can ruin the rest of your life if you can’t control yourselves. It teaches you to recognize which one you should do, which one should leave it untouched. In addition, you will learn how to accept another traditional and adept yourself to the new circumstance and exotic cultures since you are staying in different customs.
You have to open your mind, accept with difference and set yourself to unknown condition. It doesn’t mean you have to change your behavior or your point views to be a part of them but it means you should be flexible to unfamiliar society and accept others opinion and values. However, living far away from home gives us not only pros but also corn. That is you will feel lonely and isolate from your relative and friends especially at the beginning. It is really top. You have to struggle with your loneliness which we call “Home sick.” It doesn’t look the big deal but it really causes a lot of effects to your emotion. It is sensitive feeling and grows up inside you.
You will miss every moment which you spend with your family and your friends frequently. Such as sitting together on a sofa watching TV, or coming home from school, greeting your mother in the kitchen, meet your father at garden for telling about your school day. Not only people that we miss but also the facilities we use at home; our bedroom, our closet and stuffed animals. You probably think about that over and over again. Same as me, Even if I have been in USA almost 1 year, I still miss all of things at Thailand. I always think it should be good if whenever I come back from school, I will greet my mother was cooking in the kitchen, tease my father at dining table.
Besides, this feeling will get worse when you are sick or get a cold. I always remember last 6 months, I was really sick. I got a fever, threw out all the time. I couldn’t eat and couldn’t sleep well because I felt hot inside and I didn’t know how to decrease it. I sweated all the time. I had to take medicines every 4 hours. At that time, I stayed alone in Philadelphia. I felt so depressed and extremely miserable. I was thinking what happened if I died and then suddenly my parent‘s face popped up in my mind. I missed them badly. I started crying nonstop. But I was so lucky that my neighbor was so nice. She is studying about nursing. She gave me good medicines and sometime she cooked onion soup for me.
She said onion was a good herb for reduce the heat from your body. I was very thankful to her helping. I couldn’t imagine that if she didn’t help me, what would happen to me, so I realize from this experience that you have to take care of yourself as well as you can. No one can look after you all the time like you stay at your home. This is what you have to trade with your freedom. From now, I think I agree somehow that “Nowhere is the best as your home, Home, sweet home” In conclusion, even though living far away from home isn’t easy to struggle but it isn’t really hard to deal with also. It depends on what you think and what your goal. There is always a positive side in a negative side. Try your best to overcome with problems, stretch your wing and enjoy notable time of your life. “Don’t worry, be happy” Hannah Nattiya Sonchai This essay is based on my opinion and my experience