Like many single girls of my age, I often think about what would make a marriage successful and the type of person I would like to marry to in the future. Finding an ideal husband is not the only key to a happy marriage, but it certainly is important. When I was younger, my idea of a perfect husband was someone who’s got a great body, tall nose, sexy lips, strong jaws, and eyes that can look deep into my soul. After I got my heart broken a few times by some so called good-looking men, I realized how superficial I was. Knowing that to maintain a marriage is hard enough now-a-days, not to mention a happy one, I have learned to lower my standards.
So what makes a man a great husband? What kind of characteristics must a man possess that would make me want to say yes the moment he proposes? Honesty and faithfulness are the key words. I don’t want him to tell me that he is studying when he is actually going out with his friends; I want him to call me when he said he would; and I don’t want him to hide any secrets from me. If a man is constantly lying to me, he has to make up even more lies to cover up for the lies he told before. Surely I will find out about it sooner of later. If a guy lies to me about the smallest things, imagine what other things he might be lying to me about.
Mutual honesty is by far the most important in a relationship, so how can I possibly spend the rest of my life with someone who wouldn’t even tell the truth? Another very important requirement my ideal husband must meet is financial stability. As I change from a naÃ¯ve little girl who dreams all the time to who I am now, I had become more realistic. Before if someone asks me to compare the importance of bread and love, I would say love is more important. But now, I think that bread is definitely more important than love. There is an old Chinese saying, “A poor husband and wife would be feel miserable about everything.” I don’t want my husband to be super-rich and I don’t expect my him to support me while I just stay home and be a housewife, but he should at least have a steady job and making a decent amount of income.
Last but not least, the third most important trait my ideal husband must possess is a great personality. Marrying someone is a life-long commitment. I don’t want to make the mistake of being stuck with a dull husband for the rest of my life. He needs to be someone who makes me laugh and does not want to stay home all the time. For example, I want him to plan a vacation on our anniversary and take me to somewhere like Hawaii so we could walk along the beach and watch the sky turn orange as the sun sets. During dinner at a nice restaurant, he would ask me to dance when our song comes on. While we dance, he would whisper in my ear telling me how much he still loves me even after all these years.
Well, that’s all the qualities I look for in a husband. Pretty reasonable, right? If I can not meet a man that meets those requirements, I would rather not get married at all. I don’t want to get married just for the sake of getting married. I know there are things I need to improve on in order to be the ideal wife, I am working on it and I am confident that I will become a fit wife someday. Marriage is a two-way street. In addition to a great husband, there is also a lot I need to do to make a marriage work. A happy couple is understanding to each other; they compromise and adjust to each other’s needs; they use good communication skills; and most of all, they forgive.