What makes a lasting relationship in today’s society? Is it based primarily on sexual chemistry, or the act of physical sexual relations? Over the years, studies have been conducted to find what harm or help may come from sexual relations before marriage (http://ampartnership.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=134:divorce-and-premarital-sex&catid=12:recent-news&Itemid=37). Not only is their scientific research to show that premarital relations could increase relations ship issues after marriage, but there is spiritual debate as well. Many religions frown upon the idea of premarital relations as well. While reading this research paper, ponder upon how people may be affected psychologically from premarital sex when things in regards to the relationship go wrong, let alone while they are going right. This paper will touch on arguments to support
A.)Why premarital sex should be engaged in
B.) Different studies conducted to support why premarital sex should not be engaged in and
C.) Premarital sex studies
Why premarital sex should be engaged in
Today, as there is a rise in premarital sex, there also is a rise in relationships that do not last long as well as a rise in people wanting to prolong marriage all together. For this reason, many feel no need to wait to engage in sexual activity before getting married. Few reasons people feel that you shouldn’t wait are the fact that it is important to know what you are getting yourself into, helps one to mature sexually understanding their bodies better/what helps them to peak sexually, and sex being a powerful brain stimulant which can help increase daily function (http://www.examiner.com/article/some-christian-groups-encourage-premarital-sex-claiming-the-bible-says-nothing-about-it-at-all).
By having intercourse before marriage, you get to experience your partner and decipher if they you’re your sexual desires. For many sex is a key point in relationship survival. When one has sex before marriage, they are provided with more time to strengthen their sexual skills with their partner(s). Being that sex is stimulating in most cases, it not only helps to promote function, but it is also a good means of release for things built up dealing with everyday life. Though people are free to engage in premarital sex, there are not many reasons to support premarital sex being encouragement.
Why premarital sex should not be engaged in
Studies have been done to provide reasons as to why premarital sex should not be encouraged (http://www.academia.edu/1803428/A_cross-cultural_psychology_perspective_on_premarital_sex). There have been more proven reasons to show that premarital sex can has have a negative effect in many ways. Some reasons why premarital sex should not be encouraged due to the psychological effect sex has on people, increased rates of diseases, causes unstable relationships, has relation to infidelity in relationships, relation to out of control sexual urges, depreciates the value of relationships, causes unplanned/unwanted pregnancies and premarital sex being against spiritual beliefs.
Psychologically, no real sense of commitment is established with premarital sex so one finds it easy to move from one partner to the next. In the same sense, when one gives themselves sexually, they give a part of themselves to that person that creates a connection. When that connection is broken, it has very damaging effects physically, mentally, and emotionally. People tend to handle the hurt/lack of satisfaction they feel in different ways.
By having premarital sex, more people are at risk of gaining sexually transmitted diseases. Most people that engage in premarital sex have had more than one partner. That means that more people are exposed to transmission of diseases (http://teen-aid.org/Abstinence_Education/psychological_argument_for_abstinence_and_commitment.htm). During sex, chemical bonding occurs. The chemicals oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine, norepinephrine, and endorphins are released. According to an article about a study done at the University of California (http://people.howstuffworks.com/love7.htm), oxytocin begins to create an emotional bond between sexual partners. Vasopressin also is associated with the bonding process, but when these two chemicals release, they interfere with dopamine and norepinephrine pathways which may explain why love fades as attachment grows.
Typically when premarital sex is a factor in a relationship, there is no foundation of love and normally one