Many times in life, we come across a tough, influential person who leaves a great and powerful impact on our lives. Maybe it is an actress, superhero, family, teacher, or just a stranger who did something that changes your thoughts and decisions about life. Fortunately, I came across to someone who supported me from the very beginning of the journey of my life. That person is my beloved mother, who taught me to walk my first steps, who introduced me to the crazy side of life, and who has always been there for me when I needed her.
Ever since I could remember, she has been right beside me supporting any goal I was trying to reach, even when it was incredibly ridiculous to everybody else. When I grow old with my own children, I hope I can be there for my kids, and make an unforgettable impact on their lives the way she did for me. I was raised by both of my parents in America after we legally travelled from Malaysia. While my father worked a full time job, my mother stayed home and looked after me. At a young age, I had a large portion of the day with just my mother.
I was never a neglected child. She taught me to always carry a smile and to look at the positives in life instead of fretting about the negatives. When I was bored, she would stop her daily chores and watch television with me. If I complained of starvation, she would immediately cook or take me out for food. When I was sick, she took care of me and stayed up all night in case of any bad changes. If I wanted a new toy, she would nag about how hard it is to earn money but she will always end up buying it for me.
I didn’t realize at the time, but in my heart, she was already an irreplaceable mother. Eventually, I started to attend school regularly and my mother got a full time job in Long Island. We spent less and less time together, and our relationship began to grow apart. Fights led to more fights up until there was a time when she finally broke down. She told me about all her stress, she told me she wanted things for my own good, and she told me she wanted a bright future for me so I wouldn’t have to work as hard as she did just for a living.
After taking all that in, I was very grateful that my mother, who never attended college, was still trying her hardest to help support the family and gaining extra money to buy the things I yearn for. I admired my mother for having the courage to speak up to me even though it was risking between us getting in a bigger fight or me understanding her. Other mothers might be yelling at their kids for coming home past midnight. Even though my mother was angry, she kept up with me.
She asked me calmly for the reason and then persuades me into telling her beforehand next time. Other mothers might be throwing out their kid’s make-up, but my mother bought me the make-up along with skincare products and taught me how to use it. Other mothers might be terrified to find out their kids dating at 16, but my mother asked me to take things slowly and try to make the best decisions for myself. Other mothers might complain when their child received a failing grade on their test, but my mother hired a $50 hourly tutor for me to catch up in my class.
Other mothers might nag everyday about their kid’s messy room, but I never came home to a messy room before. Other mothers might be whipping their kids when they tell them they won’t be able to start college in time, but my mother is proud I graduated from GED. Everyone has that one special person they look up to as a role model by finding someone who has admirable traits that you want to inquire. This could be someone you’re proud of or does things that you appreciate.
My mother taught me the importance of family, and self-respect. She showed me the value of a dollar and proved thee are second chances in every corner of life. She guided me to forgiving people even when I tell myself I would never forgive someone again. My mother had demonstrated how to give back to others in need, even when you can use a little help yourself. She is the most phenomenal mother, best friend, secret-teller, chef, guidance-counselor, teacher, and role model I’ll ever encounter.