A. Engaged Couple
The most prominent argument for premarital sex among Christians is the marital argument, which says, “We are in love and plan to marry soon. Why should we wait?” (Williams: 2010). If both participants are willing, care deeply for each other, and use protection, premarital sex is fine. This experience will bring two people closer together. (Zeolla: 2011)
Others practice premarital sex because they are engaged and will be marrying each other soon. They will learn what sleeping with someone is like, what to do and they will be gaining more experiences. They will not have to worry about having experience because they have done it before. And this is even better if they will marry the one they have lost their virginity.
B. Sexually active teenagers
In this present generation we live in, it has already been accepted among people, especially to the teenagers. It does not really bother or matter to them anymore but rather, if they’ve done it, they’re even in the “in” crowd now. When someone says he or she is not a virgin, it won’t be as that shocking news as some may have imagined it to be. (OPPapers)
Teenagers are impulsive, adventurous, and curious. They want to try and experience new things, like sex. Nowadays, sex is just like a common thing. In liberated countries, it’s not a big deal if they have sex with someone they were attracted to or they have just met at party. It’s even “cool” if they have already experienced it.
II. Against premarital sex
Sex is good but pre-marital sex is not. Sex should be private and should only be done by married couple, husband and wife. In Bible, it is stated in Hebrews 13:4 – “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (NIV). But nowadays, sex is in just about every magazine, television show, and movie. It is a point on a lot of music. Our world has gotten lax about sex, making it seem like premarital sex is okay because it feels good, but the Bible does not agree. It is stated in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 – “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable” (NIV). (Mahonev: 2011)
Sex is a good thing. It is created by God to be a beautiful and enjoyable expression of love, but only between a married couple, husband and wife. It is a gift to be used in marriage, not just for the call of the lust. God wants everyone to control the passions, wait and remain sexually pure until marriage, because all sexual activity outside marriage is a sin against Him.
III. Conclusion and Solution
We don’t support premarital sex because we agree on the arguments of against it. God doesn’t allow premarital sex. As a Christian, we believe that a couple must be married first before having any sexual activity. Sex is a gift from God to a married man and woman only and it’s not just an act between a girlfriend and boyfriend or fiancé and fiancée. We are not allowed to do it just because we want to. It is a sacred act for married couples. We need to save sex for our marriage, just like the bible said. Premarital sex also causes damages physically and emotionally.
Because of this conclusion, we have come up with a solution of having sex education, read the bible and go to church regularly. Sharing God’s word can help them understand that premarital sex is a sin and shouldn’t be done. Sex education can also help by teaching them the effects of premarital sex. We need to explain to them that truly intimate relationships need trust and commitment in order to grow and children need parents who are completely committed to each other.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. NIV
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Hebrews 13:4. NIV
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