For many of us we have a place that we go to, to rest, relax, and sleep a place that’s filled with memories, laughter, tears, and family a place we call home. Then we have the people such as the elderly that is forced or persuaded to believe that their place of comfort where they shared in memories with their family and love ones in their home is no longer suitable to meet their demanding needs due the illness and capabilities. So, their love ones take them on a tour to this place that tries to imitate a familiar place, but are far from feeling like home. What is this place you may ask?! A nursing home that is “a home away from home”, really? In my opinion Nursing homes do not benefit the ones that it’s design to help, rehabilitate, and care for but to strip the elderly of their dignity, sense of belonging, and respect. Many elderly people are at times helpless and really depending heavily on the individual who was hired to help them with day-to-day activities that we may take for granted.
We wake up every day get out of bed, go to the restroom, and dress ourselves without any assistance, but the elderly do not have the opportunity to do the same day-to-day activities without waiting tirelessly on the people who seem to have forgotten that the elderly are humans. I have personally experience the careless and unthinkable acts of the people who work at the nursing home from ignoring the elderly who is screaming desperately from the depths of their soul to the top of their lungs for help! Yet the workers walk on by as if the sounds of help are sounds of sweet humming birds singing. As we freely walk to the restroom and cleanse ourselves the elderly waits upon the answer of their call button that seems to go unanswered until the elderly has no choice, but to release all that they were holding onto themselves and their beds.
A lot of families think that they are doing their elderly love ones a good deed by sending them to a place that portrays to be a loving and caring because the family feel that they are unable to provide the round the clock care that their love one’s now need. But little do they know the place that they are sending their love one’s is not the place that appears to be, in my experience you have to ensure that your love one is receiving the care that the nursing homes promise to deliver by making daily visits to show the workers that this particular resident has a family that care and visit daily.
When the workers see that the residents have family that comes daily the worker tends to answer pages and stay on top of what their job consist upon. However, if you are a family that don’t visit your love one daily but just on holidays your elderly love one is more at risk of neglect then the motto of most nursing homes “We want those special members of your family to become equally special members of ours. We want to relieve the anxiety and frustration you may be experiencing by providing a nursing home community of constant support, attention and personalized care. Above all, we want to serve each person entrusted to us with compassion, dignity, purpose and respect.”