Parents often demand respect and obedience from their children by being authoritative: “You have to do what I told you to do, because I am your parent.” Period. Likewise, some bosses demand respect and obedience from their subordinates by being controlling: “You have to do what I told you to do.” Period. The truth is, if you demand respect and obedience, your children or subordinates may do what you want, out of helplessness and fear, but they don’t necessarily respect you and obey you from their heart. They are just acting that way. Demanding alienates people. They will either be rebellious or simply distant themselves from you. The fact is, the more you demand respect, the less you will get. The more respect you give to others, the more respect you will get back. Once people lost their respect for you, it is very hard to get it back. So try not to do anything that might cause people to lose respect for you. Here are some ways to earn respect from others around you:
•Respect and trust them
•Be human and be personable
•Show compassion and understanding
•Care about who they are and what they do
•Be helpful to others and they’ll return the favor
•Have a good attitude and team spirit
•Have integrity and good work ethic
Remember the old saying: “You don’t demand respect, you earn it. Respect is NOT demanded. It may be required and RIGHT even to demand respect of a position..boss or parent. But the person within that position can NOT demand respect. Never heard one dumb enough to say they demanded respect. Obedience however is often demanded. I think you just tossed in the demand for respect. Probably never happened but you needed that bit of fiction to make your article on a subject you had already picked. Self Esteem – How To Gain Respect” By Jason Osborn
If you have a bad self-esteem but you want to gain respect, there is one simple thing that you can do to help. Before I tell you what that is let me ask you a question. Have you ever found yourself doing things out of character when you are around people who make you feel uncomfortable?
Don’t worry if you have because you are not alone. Most people have done this several times in their life. However, the key to gaining respect from people is to just be you. Now this is where most people will begin to argue that if they were themselves they would make complete fools out of themselves. So instead they act like something else and still make a fool out of themselves. Seems kind of strange doesn’t it?
Lao-Tzu once said, ‘When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.’ The first thing you have to do to make this statement true is to begin believing in yourself. As you begin to believe in yourself then your self-esteem will also begin to increase. As your self-esteem increases then you will be able to be yourself no matter who you are around. Once you are comfortable with yourself then all sorts of people will respect you for who you are.
So the next time that you want to gain someone’s respect, just start by being yourself. Once you have done this a few times this will give you additional boosts in your self-esteem and, before you know it, not only will your self-esteem be higher than ever before but you will have the respect of many of the people around you.